"The past is a great place and I don't want to erase it or to regret it, but I don't want to be its prisoner either." ~Mick Jagger
Questions to Ponder:
I'm certain we've all done and said things that we later regret. It's a part of the curriculum we call "life." The question is: Are you still holding onto the story? And I don't just mean the story of when you regret what you did and said. I also mean the story that you repeat about when someone else did or said something regrettable. How long do you need to hold yourself or that other person "prisoner" for the mistake? What do you get from either scenario? You get to keep putting yourself down in shame, or you get to have an illusion of control over the other person. How does this serve you?
The first thing I want you to do is to realize that it's true: We ALL do and say things we regret later. It's a part of the growth process. It's not meant to hold us down; it's meant to be a learning experience so that we don't make the mistake again. Second, if you are reading this asking yourself "Is she speaking directly to me?" then the answer is YES, YOU!
To move forward, make amends with yourself. Start by acknowledging that you are an amazing person in this wold. Your unique value is a gift and no one has the right to make you feel otherwise. Yes, someone screwed up. Yes, it could be you. Regret is a sign that you know the action/words were wrong. Apologies feel good; admitting you made a mistake, and acknowledging the hurt your mistake caused.With apologies comes forgiveness.The only forgiveness you can control is your own. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Acknowledge. Learn. Apologize. Forgive. Move on and continue to be amazing. It's OK to make mistakes. It's not OK to remain a prisoner of them. It doesn't serve anyone.
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